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Mementos, Music and Flowers

The details that make a funeral feel personal are often the ones people remember most. It may be a song that links to a cherished memory. Or a flower from the garden. Or even a fishing rod leaning against the casket.

These things aren’t solely decorative — they are personal touches that can say so much about the person being remembered.

We’ll help you think through what to include and how to incorporate it into the service.

Music

Music can be woven throughout a funeral — as guests arrive, during the service, and as people leave. It can be played through our sound system, performed live, or both.

You might choose songs the person loved, music that reflects their heritage or faith, or something that simply reminds you of them. There are no rules. A hymn, a piece played on the guitar, or a song that brings back a particular memory can all have their place.

If you’re arranging live music, let your funeral director know so we can confirm the setup at the venue. Recorded music can be supplied digitally or on CD.

Flowers

Flowers have always been part of funerals, bringing warmth and colour to a service. There are many ways to incorporate them.

Family flowers are often arranged by the family and placed on or near the casket. Your funeral director can help you consider what arrangements would work best for the space.

If you’re welcoming flowers from other guests, we can receive them and display them appropriately.

A single stem can be a lovely gesture, too. Guests might place a flower on the casket as they pay their respects.

Alternatively, you might prefer an eco-friendly option, such as potted plants or seed packets that guests can take home.

Mementos and Personal Touches

Personal items placed on or near the casket, or displayed during the service, can say a great deal without a word being spoken. Families have brought:

● Sports jerseys, caps, or club scarves
● Tools of a trade: a hard hat, a chef’s apron, a paintbrush
● Photographs, artworks, or treasured objects
● Books, a musical instrument, a fishing rod
● Items reflecting cultural or spiritual significance
● Handwritten notes or letters from family members

Some items may also be placed inside the casket. Your funeral director can advise on what’s appropriate, depending on the circumstances.

Involvement of Family and Guests

Inviting family and friends to take part in the service can make the farewell more personal. This might include:

● Inviting guests to place a flower as they approach the casket
● Asking people to write a message in the memorial book
● A shared ritual: lighting a candle, releasing something, planting something together
● A moment of open reflection where anyone may speak

Talk to your funeral director and celebrant about what feels appropriate. There are no requirements, and everyone can choose whether or not to take part.

It’s Your Choice

Our flexible funeral options allow you to create a farewell that reflects your loved one’s unique character — in whatever way feels right for your family.